If you haven’t watched the movie Frozen or at least heard the song, “Do You Want to Build A Snowman”, then you must be living under a rock. The movie and songs have been so popular that parodies have been popping up all over YouTube. Even the Disney Hipsters got into the act with “Do You Want to Be My Boyfriend”.
While the video is entertaining and skillfully sung it got me thinking about St. Valentine’s Day. Why do we need a significant other on this day of all days and why do we put so much pressure on our partners to deliver something amazing? Disclaimer: I have not been single since 2001 so I don’t know how hard the dating world has become. I like my husband more than the thought of being single.
I would think it would be easier to meet people now with social media, dating sites, and meet-up mobile apps but I’ve been told I am wrong. Hallmark, FTD, and Ashton Kutcher’s horrific movie Valentine’s Day (dry heaves) would have you believe single women on Valentines are sitting around watching “The Notebook”, eating Blue Bell Ice Cream, and drinking wine from the bottle. Do you know what I call that…my Saturday night. I’m not telling anyone to go on some Eat, Pray, Love journey but I do ask, why wait for someone to buy you flowers when you can buy them for yourself? Be your own Valentine and make yourself happy. I would rather be alone than be with the wrong person.
My husband has been referred to as the Sheldon Cooper of Alabama. Early in my marriage, my husband would buy me flowers on Valentine’s Day and while I appreciated the sentiment it was not what I wanted or expected. I dropped subtle hints during conversations but he clearly wasn’t picking up what I was putting down. Is it his fault I didn’t get what I wanted? No, I kinda set him up for failure.
While I pride myself on being a great gift giver to friends and family, it’s because I pay attention. While some partners are equally good at gift giving, most are not. In order to save yourself disappointment, just tell your partner exactly what you want. While I agree it might not be as sexy as coming home to rose petals on the bed, dinner already made, and a bubble bath drawn, it’s better than a box of CVS chocolates and half dead flowers. Lets be honest, none of us are dating Ryan Gosling.
Readers: Do you think I’m making it too easy for men? Let me know in the comments below.
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